Why Share ?

Everybody has a different way of interpreting a story. Some may view one as inspiring, while others consider it stupid. I’ve had my fair share of telling many, but despite the millions of distinct stories that exist on this planet, that’s not my main concern. Anybody can explain the story about the tortoise and the hare. But WHY do we feel an urge to share these stories? What do we hope to gain by disclosing these experiences with our colleagues?

I find myself telling multiple stories daily with both my friends and family. My most memorable story would be me quitting football. I’ve explained this story countless times, with more people than I can remember. To prevent going in detail, I simply quit because it
wasn’t fun anymore. Even if I may have excelled in it, I didn’t want to waste my time on something that I don’t enjoy. But that’s not my point. I told this story so many times because all my friends were disappointed to see me quit after playing for so many years. And it hurt me to give it up after so long. Justifying my reasons with everybody may have been my emotional output from all the mixed emotions that arose from it. But I did it to put others around me into my shoes. To let them see through my perspective. 
Esperanza can be characterized as a scatterbrained girl just through the way she writes and describes her stories. Her short sentences and unique vocabulary. But she doesn’t tell these stories just because it was interesting to her. She points out these small details with the audience so that we can understand how she interprets everything. What may seem like ordinary trees to all of us, happens to be the only things on this Earth that understand her because they don’t belong. Or any ordinary immigrant from Mexico? These aren’t just typical people to her. She sees beyond the ordinary. She’s able to realize that all these immigrants have families too. And these families have no idea what to do, or where to go. What we view as scatterbrained, is really just her shedding light on critical topics that are avoided from the discussion.

Picture [2007] [Teamwork] [cc-by-sa]

But what are all these stories defined by: the content, or the significance of it? I have so many friends that can talk to me for hours about all these crazy things that have happened to them at parties and hangouts. As much as I may envy them, or be intrigued by these stories, I forget them within a few days because they aren’t stories that really mean anything to me. But the personal stories that truly affect me tend to be the ones I don’t
forget. When my friend comes to me because his friend was just killed the night before, then I’m concerned. When my brother tells me about his first time visiting New York, then I’m intrigued. The moments when your companions want to share a story with you because they need you are the stories I will respect most.

I wanna be the one to make you happiest, it hurts you the most
They say the end is near, it’s important that we close..
.. to the most, high
Regardless of what happen on him let’s rely

There are times.. when you’ll need someone..
I will be by your side..
There is a light, that shines,
special for you, and me..

Although not obvious at first, these meaningful stories are seen in all kinds of forms. One of the more popular form, music, is shown in Common’s album Like Water For Chocolate in the song “The Light”. The song, in short, is Common telling his girlfriend what she means to him. At the time, Common was dating Erika Badu and used this song (OR STORY) to express how much she means to him. It also happened to be one of his best popular and best songs. Coincidence?

What about the stories that are meant to be heard by many? Why do these people feel a need to tell their story to everybody else? In this video, a man named Leonard simply explains the journey he takes on figuring out what love is. Although the clip is only three minutes long, i consider it one of the greatest stories I’ve ever heard. Why would he  agree to share this story with us though? While some people tell their stories to get help from their loved ones, others such as Leonard are willing to tell their stories to help others around them that are in need of help.  So whether you’re telling a story about your cat or your first kiss, know that it isn’t about the content of your story. What matters most is how that story has affected you and why you’re sharing it with those who you call your family and friends.




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